Being called a babysitter doesn’t bother me as long as it is not said with disrespect. I know my worth. My clients know my worth. A single word does not change that. “Childcare provider” is quite a mouthful, anyway.
I understand why some providers are upset by the term, though. It is sometimes used with the intent of making us feel small. I call bullshit. A babysitter, even someone who is “just a babysitter” should not feel small. A parent trusted you with the most important thing they have to guard and protect. That is not small. If they think it is, that is their own sad issue, not ours.
Yet a difference does remain between a babysitter and a childcare provider, at least in their connotations. A babysitter is commonly thought of as someone who comes to your house and plays with your children while you grocery shop or see a movie. Their job is to play with your children, feed them and put them to bed, all while keeping them safe. It is generally for a short, infrequent period of time.
A childcare provider, on the other hand, is often with your child for as much as nine hours a day, five days a week. A provider’s job is to do everything a babysitter does, all the playing, love and nurture, safe keeping and fun, while also giving your child a basic education. Even if your child does not attend preschool they are receiving an education with their provider, or at least they should be. From birth to three years old is some of the most important learning time in a child’s life. They are beginning to understand concepts, both social and cognitive, and need a safe, nurturing environment to explore and learn.
Many parents do not understand the role of play in learning. We all hear about it, and usually believe it, but not everyone understands it. Your childcare provider understands it and understands how to make it work. We attend trainings and workshops, we call on each other’s vast experience, many of us have received a formal education in early childhood education. Trust us. We are teaching your child valuable lessons everyday. From finger painting to puppet theater, we know what we are doing. We know why it matters.
I don’t mind if you call me a babysitter… as long as you know the difference.